congruence over reactivity

In our rapidly shifting world of constant distractions and demands on our attention, it’s remarkably easy to lose touch with a deep sense of purpose and fail to live intentionally. We get swept up in the currents of busyness, reactivity and short-term thinking – forever attending to what’s urgently crying for our focus while neglecting to step back and ensure we’re actually investing our finite life energy into what’s most meaningful. Days careen into weeks, months into years, and we can arrive at major life junctures with a sinking feeling of “Is this really it? Is this all there is?” A vague but persistent dissonance hums beneath the surface that despite checking all the prescribed boxes for “success”, we’ve gotten off track from expressing our highest potentials in service of what truly fires our souls. Living with authentic purpose doesn’t require constantly chasing lofty external achievements or radically disrupting your daily existence. It simply means pausing amidst the frenzy periodically to realign your core values and visions for how you want to show up in this world with the tangible ways you’re actually allocating your time, energy and priorities. It involves carving out the space for honest self-reflection on the kind of imprint you want to leave and epitaphs you hope to embody. Asking yourself thought-provoking questions like “How do I wish to be remembered?” or “What matters most to me and am I honoring that with how I live? “With that sort of soul-searching as your lodestar, you then gain clarity on where to start pruning back activities, relationships or habits that may have been perfectly appropriate for a previous chapter but now leak your reserves without replenishing your purpose. You make judicious edits to liberate margins where you’ve been chronically oversubscribed. Simultaneously, you become resolute about boundaries protecting your precious life force, only saying an embodied “Hell yes!” to commitments aligning with your deepest strivings. You reorient your trajectory to prioritize nurturing and expressing more of your signature gifts in service of what you’re truly devoted to rather than chronically abandoning yourself. As you live into that purpose-aligned integrity more wholeheartedly each day, you awaken to the palpable joy and creative exhilaration that arise from finally giving your vital core values air to breathe fully. Your relationships feel more authentic and nourished from the same root. You come alive with integrity and congruence. Challenges still arrive, nor do you escape moments of doubt or the natural undulations of being human. But you navigate them buoyed by an underlying sense of living true to your highest context for existence, with fewer doll layers of distraction falling away from what truly matters. Viewed from that resonant place within, even small daily actions and choices become unifed by their serviceability and intentionality towards your greater purpose. You discover the power of unhurried consistency in expressing your resolute callings incrementally and without fanfare. Rather than sourcing meaning from externals, you come to embody meaning itself – egoic striving transforming into a more easeful form of lived integrity without credits or scorecards. Just a piercingly awake willingness to keep showing up authentically, letting your purpose shine forth not just in what you achieve but how you walk this Earth.

limitlessness

Far too many of us move through life allowing fear to dictate our choices and limit our horizons. We instinctively avoid anything that might induce vulnerability, risk or potential failure – retreating into the safety of our comfort zones where all feels managed and predictable. Yet by letting these anxieties and self-protective impulses run the show, we miss out on so many of life’s initiations into personal growth, joy and unanticipated opportunities. Our world gradually begins shrinking inward as we find ourselves leading an increasingly constricted existence hemmed in by our own inhibitions. Fear can masquerade in many crafty forms – procrastination, excessive caution, imposter syndrome, analysis paralysis, addiction to certainty. At its core is the contraction of our life force, the shackling of our creativity and bravery. We trade the wildness of authentically showing up for a domesticated, pale version of living that feels like going through the motions rather than dancing full-out. Courage, by contrast, is the force that allows us to feel the fear but let it billow our sails rather than weigh us down with anchors of avoidance. It’s born by staring squarely at the gaping maws we’d rather ignore, then taking one step after another anyway embodied commitments to personal integrity and growth. For many of us, it first takes breaking a sweat to interrupt our fearful inertia. Doing one small defiant thing each day that upsets the apple cart of our well-worn grooves and makes our heart race a little – even if just momentarily. A candid conversation we’ve been avoiding. Finally sharing a piece of creative work after years of insecurity stalling us. Making travel plans to shift out of our physical and mental ruts. Courageously broaching an intimate truth. With each successive bout of leaning into the currents of discomfort and vulnerability rather than fighting them, we become incrementally desensitized to the panicky voices forever warning us to retreat to safety. We build the courage muscle, allowing us to navigate progressively wider stretches of choppy waters without defaulting to lifeboats of defensive withdrawal. Eventually, our small faithful steps yield a wealth of grit, resilience and an almost stubborn willingness to brave hazards that once held us hostage. We become larger lived, showing up more richly for all of life’s invitations rather than hiding out in the bland waiting rooms of our fears. Equally vital, that valorous inner fire fuels our confidence to take bigger leaps into the unknown – following those nudges that spark our vitality and have seemed too preposterous to attempt before. We give ourselves permission to vision from limitlessness rather than suspicion. To dream boldly and risk failure for the promise of inhabiting our highest integrity. Over time, our internalized definitions of courage and possibility continue expanding to integrate new heroic callings. What once loomed as terrifyingly impossible gradually transmutes into eminently achievable or even mundane with enough trailblazing. Through it all, we draw upon the simple yet defiant truth that our playing-it-safe defaults rob us of far more than any temporary hurdles we face. That the greatest loss lies in reflexively passed-up chances to stretch into our utmost aliveness. That fortune persistently favors the audacious. So we find the valor to forever overrule our fear impulses. Until at last, unbridled courage becomes not only our way of being, but the way of our being here at all.

nurturing your “within” ground

In a world that constantly barrages us with idealized images of perfection and societal pressures to conform, it’s become increasingly difficult to extend unconditional love and acceptance to ourselves exactly as we are. We’re bombarded with subtle and overt messages that we’re not quite good enough, attractive enough, successful enough, or worthy enough unless we buy into certain standards or norms. Inevitably, that internalized shaming voice creeps in, flooding us with harsh self-criticism about our perceived physical flaws, personal shortcomings and mistakes. We become our own biggest bullies, habitually beating ourselves up over ways we fall short of arbitrary definitions of worthiness that were never realistic or truthful to begin with. This inner war against our own being creates profound divides within us – robbing us of self-trust, stifling our creative expression, corroding our self-esteem, and ultimately preventing us from living with wholehearted authenticity. We treat ourselves in ways we’d never treat another human being, perpetually picking ourselves apart while chasing external lures that promise we might finally be enough if we just try a little harder. The antidote to this toxic inner narrative is making a conscious, firm decision to embrace radical self-love and acceptance. Not the saccharine, self-indulgent variety – but the kind forged from deep self-compassion, clear boundaries and steadfast commitment to approving of yourself no matter what changes or challenges arise. It begins with breaking that cycle of merciless self-judgment and negative self-talk that keeps you feeling small and disconnected from your inherent wholeness. Catching each shaming thought as it arises and meeting it with understanding, then gently redirecting your mind towards more nurturing interpretations in alignment with your truth. As you build this muscle of fiercely defending and believing in your worthiness simply for being you, your relationship with yourself is reborn into one of kindness, empowerment and trust. You grow more willing to embrace your quirks, flaws and complexities as organic parts of your beauty, rather than aspects necessitating constant self-improvement that often stems from egotistical delusions. With entrenched self-love as your unshakable foundation, you gain the courage to step outside societally imposed limits and show up more vulnerably in essential relationships without apology. You pursue projects and dreams without attaching your self-worth to succeeding or failing according to conventional metrics. You make soulful choices from a place of self-knowledge rather than performing for others’ approval. In essence, you walk this earth bowed by none, owing anything to no ideals beyond your commitment to keep showing up authentically – beaming richly from an infinite well of belonging to yourself first. That level of uncompromising self-acceptance yields profound healing and growth. It dismantles the artificial compartments we create to hide behind, until we’re finally integrated beings inhabiting the full spectrum of our humanity. Our relationship with ourselves mirrors our wholeness in the truest sense. With abiding self-love no longer under siege, our creativity soars. We open to receiving all of life’s blessings more freely without the obstruction of shame. We discover the courage to offer that same unconditional embrace to others, knowing we all deserve to inhabit this miracle we’ve been given without caveats or adornments. The journey begins and ends within – with learning to unreservedly cherish and show up for yourself day by day, breath by breath, in ways that reveal your wholeness has been there all along.

defogging the mind

Our life is kind of metaphorically like a boat sailing. Often when we’ve days passing on and on, it’s easy to get stuck going through the motions and losing sight of why you’re doing what you’re doing in the first place. We get bogged down in responsibilities, obligations and basic survival tasks while the deeper reasons they’re in service of grow faint. Without conscious realignment, years can slip by where you’re just mindlessly checking boxes – work, errands, chores, bills, appointments – while sleepwalking through everything and forgetting your greater sense of purpose. Your core motivations and values feel obscured beneath relentless busywork. At a certain point, this aimless course-correction becomes debilitatingly empty. You look up one day and wonder – what’s this all for? Why am I doing any of this? Before you know it, existential crisis and emptiness sets in if you lack an authentic “Why” driving you. The antidote is to pause and get radically reoriented with your deepest intentions for how you want to show up in the world. Identifying your most resonant personal values, passions and positive impact you wish to create. Only from that anchored vision can you then mindfully direct your daily actions in alignment with those ideals. It takes courageous self-awareness to get exquisitely clear about what you want your legacy and life’s imprint to be. What really matters most to you beyond just pacifying others’ expectations or chambering the status quo? What dreams, experiences and principles are non-negotiable to leave room for? With a foundation of purpose and prioritized values, every decision gets filtered through the lens of whether it’s moving you closer or further from that centered moral compass. You’re no longer easy to get blown off course by obligations or limiting beliefs that distract from what you want your soul’s true trajectory to be. Of course, realigning with purpose doesn’t mean giving up all responsibilities or throwing caution to the wind. It often means carefully editing how you divide your time, life force and attention to investing in what’s genuinely essential. It means getting skilled at discerning core motivations – yours and others – and reprioritizing your actions in kind. It’s about progressively changing where you point your energy so it actually feeds your intended growth and positive influence. It’s also critical to surround yourself with reminders of your defined purpose and have a routine for reconnecting with it. Create inspirational artifacts, meditation anchors, morning rituals and network touchpoints so your compass never gets too obscured. Along the way, you learn to be sturdy yet flexible, tweaking your path as life unfolds but never abandoning your faithful inner guide for too long. Know that devoting yourself to purpose and intention doesn’t mean having all the details predefined or locking yourself into a rigid destiny. It’s a commitment to ceaselessly be listening for the callings of your most authentic self, getting realigned without attachment to how it manifests, then aligning your actions accordingly with bravery and devotion. Stay close to purpose, and you’ll never be rudderless or resign yourself to shallow, empty functionality again. This lifetime is for something vastly greater. I recommend to have this thought process through our mind atleast once a month for recalibrating everything.

deepened bonding

We all need people in our lives we can truly connect with on a deeper level. Having close relationships and bonds helps us feel grounded, understood and like we belong. Humans thrive through genuine connection.

Yet in our fast-paced, digitally saturated world, it’s easy to let meaningful connections fall by the wayside. We get busy and default to more surface-level interactions driven by convenience. We isolate ourselves with technology instead of nurturing real rapport. Loneliness becomes increasingly common as we lose that fabric of closeness.

If this resonates, it may be time to prioritize building and maintaining more quality connections in your life. Ones that feed your soul and remind you how powerful human bonds can be.

What does a truly meaningful connection look like? It involves relating in an open, vulnerable way that transcends small talk. You feel safe being authentic, expressing your genuine thoughts and feelings. There’s trust, caring, mutual understanding and an ability to be fully present with each other.

Deep connections don’t have to be with romantic partners or family members, although those can certainly provide them. Intimate friendships, community ties, colleagues or connections to mentors and neighbors can all become profoundly nourishing bonds in our lives too. The benefits of investing in these types of relationships are huge. You’ll experience greater emotional intimacy, which allows you to feel seen, heard and accepted as your fullest self. You’ll feel a sense of belonging to something larger than your individual life. These connections become sacred spaces to offload, receive wise guidance, and know you’re not alone.

When you have people who “get” you on a soulful level, you’re able to flourish and grow in ways you can’t by going it alone. And the gifts flow both ways – as you’re able to lovingly support others in return. True connections are empowering and deeply validating.

Building this fabric of closeness does require being intentional, vulnerable and generous with your presence. You have to open up and go beyond superficial exchanges. Ask questions that allow people to share more authentically. Listen deeply without judgement. Spend quality time building trust and rapport. Look for common hopes, experiences and perspectives to bond over.

It’s also crucial to nurture existing connections once they form. Don’t let busyness or distance allow them to decay over time. Make check-ins and quality time together a priority so bonds don’t fray. Cherish the people who make an effort to understand your soul.

In our world of fragmented attention and virtual placeholders for connection, taking a step back to prioritize depth and rootedness may be the most radical act. But investing in genuine connections is investing in the richness of our own spirit. We need people we can lean on, celebrate with, be vulnerable with and grow alongside. The rewards of cultivating that type of relating are vast – because that’s where true belonging lives.

slow down, bloom

Imagine the whirring hum of constant noise: notifications dinging, deadlines looming, a relentless stream of information flooding your senses. This, unfortunately, is the soundtrack of many modern lives. We race against the clock, mistaking busyness for progress, leaving little room for the simple luxury of stillness.But stillness isn’t inactivity; it’s an active choice to step off the treadmill and breathe. It’s the silent observer perched on the shoulder of your frenetic self, whispering, “Look, listen, feel.” In that quiet observation lies a wealth of treasures: peace, perspective, and even greater productivity.Think of stillness as a blank canvas. Unlike the cluttered agenda that dictates your everyday hustle, stillness offers space for contemplation. It’s where you can observe your thoughts without judgment, sift through the priorities vying for your attention, and rediscover the hidden gems amidst the incessant noise.This newfound awareness unlocks a surprising truth: sometimes, “doing less” is the secret to achieving more. The frantic activity often masks underlying problems or distracts us from tasks that truly matter. Stepping back allows us to identify these inefficiencies, prioritize effectively, and approach our goals with renewed focus and intention.But how do we navigate this unfamiliar terrain of stillness? It starts with a single, conscious breath. Close your eyes, feel your feet planted on the ground, and listen to the rhythm of your breath. Notice the details of your surroundings, the warmth of the sun on your skin, the rustle of leaves in the wind. These seemingly insignificant moments hold profound power.Gradually, incorporate micro-moments of stillness into your day. Sit by a window for a few minutes, savor your coffee without your phone in hand, take a mindful walk amidst nature. As you practice, you’ll find yourself craving these pauses, these little sanctuaries amidst the chaos.Remember, stillness isn’t about escaping life; it’s about enriching it. It’s about rediscovering the simple joy of being present, attuned to yourself and the world around you. So, take a deep breath, step off the hamster wheel, and embrace the transformative power of the pause. It’s just around the corner, waiting to be discovered.

blank canvas

An abstract piece that I worked on recently.

““In the fear of creating something normal, he stared at that blank canvas for a very long time with a brush in his hand. He waited until all the paint dried up, his heart didn’t sing the songs anymore, the fire in his soul turned into ash, his flesh turned into bones, and until his dreams and thoughts faded into the oblivion.”

― Akshay Vasu, The Abandoned Paradise: Unraveling the beauty of untouched thoughts and dreams.”


nurturing dreams.


illustrated by The Border Of a Mind Studios.

“Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.”

Lao Tzu

In line with our vision, I’m planning to author a series of illustrations with some of the most inspiring stories and allegories that I’ve come across. Let’s blend wisdom and art. Write me your thoughts.
Some other artworks to explore:

Undream
Build with the mind
 “forsaken steps”  in objet trouvé concept.
Humble Life
Paint with Light
Choosing the Circus
Mind Vessel
Dreaming Beyond
Mirror
Done in Love
Enigmatic
Tranquil
Parallel worlds
Book of beautiful moments
Swayed In
About the storm

about the storm.

“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.

― haruki murakami

Original Fine Art:
Build with the mind
 “forsaken steps”  in objet trouvé concept.
Humble Life
Paint with Light
Choosing the Circus
Mind Vessel
Dreaming Beyond
Mirror
Done in Love
Enigmatic
Tranquil
Parallel worlds
Book of beautiful moments
Swayed In